To wish happy mother’s day to me!

And all mothers and future mothers, reading this.




We just got home a few days ago, after spending our Golden Week break at Hakone. It was our first time there, and we enjoyed the place quite a bit! Although I thought the pirate ship would be a hit, it was the least interesting part of the trip to the kids lol.

Celebrating mother’s day today made me reflect my motherhood journey for the last 10 years, since my firstborn turned 10 this year. Looking back, it was such a blur - if it wasn’t for the kids in the flesh in front of my eyes, I wouldn’t have believed I actually got pregnant 3 times, delivered babies 3 times, and took care of newborns 3 times, all on my own (with help from husband, of course. I’m not a superhuman) 

It wasn’t easy. It was hell, I’d be honest about that. Rayfa was the easiest baby out of the 3, but one of the core memories I have from her newborn phase is me going to the kitchen to make my coffee at 10 am after just getting her to nap, and then suddenly hearing her cries. And just like that, I broke down in tears, snot and everything, thinking what did I do wrong? Why wouldn’t she just sleep, so I can have my breakfast and coffee in peace? I was just sooo exhausted. And just looking at me like that, Shahrul quickly made me sit down at the dining table, and went to attend to Rayfa, so I didn’t have to.

I just knew there is a special place in heaven for husbands who actually function as a husband and a father.

But, now, those hard memories seems like a thousand light years ago. Sometimes I feel like this life I’m living is not mine, because what do you mean I now have 2 pre-teen boys and a cheeky 4 year old girl who looks just like me and basically my twin?! It’s not all rainbows for sure, but at the end of the day, knowing I always have these 2 boys coming in my bedroom to kiss me goodnight and tell me “i love you mommy” and this little girl who can’t go to sleep unless I’m laying by her side…

Life is so unpredictable sometimes, but when the surprises come in these adorable forms, I wouldn’t have it any other way <3


 And that’s the theme for now. 


Today is the first day of Ramadan at the office for this year. I can’t remember how it was last year because I’ve blocked out a lot of my early days at the company out of embarrassment, so I didn’t know what to expect.

Couldn’t fast but I dread explaining to my co-workers and bosses why I couldn’t fast (you know, menstruation and such is not a good topic to break the ice in a whole new country, let alone a conservative one) so during lunch time I went out to Tokyo station next building. It’s literally next to my office, which is a fact I’m still struggling to grasp cos who would believe??

Daimaru is a department store in Tokyo station similar to Isetan in KLCC, so I spend majority of my lunch time there, browsing the makeup and bags and clothes section. Some days, I would go to level 8 and spend half an hour in Tokyu Hands.

Yesterday, I thought I could go to one of the levels’ jibaiki and buy a hot drink (preferably coffee), just sit on one of the benches they provide next to the jibaiki which is quite secluded, finish my drink and go back to the office acting like I’m fasting.

But lo and behold, apparently the universe has another plan for me.

Reached one of the jibaiki, but didn’t like the drinks selection. So went around some levels to look for a good one - only to be disappointed that some levels don’t even have a jibaiki. Saw some Porter bags so took some photos for husband (he didn’t like them). Proceeded to check out other levels, and somehow one is worse than the other - some didn’t even have hot drinks! - so went back to lower level, and found out that the jibaiki only accepts coins, not Suica. Or cards.

At this point I felt like giving up and going back to the office..and one the way back I figured I could just buy at family mart and drink at the benches in Daimaru. So quickly dropped by to buy the drink, paid using PayPay and went back inside Daimaru. 

Apparently the coffee I bought is a “butter coffee” flavour so it has a bitter, salty taste. YUCK. Finished 3/4 of it, quickly found a bin and ran out of the Tokyo station back to office.

Conclusion: maybe explaining to my co-workers that during menstruation, women can’t fast is much more easier than having to experience this.

 The other day, I stumbled upon this definition of expat and immigrant:

An expat is someone who lives outside their home country for a limited time, while an immigrant is someone who moves to a new country with the intention of settling there permanently.

And I found myself wondering, then what is the term for a person who is in the middle between living outside their home country for 30 years but wants to come home in their old age?

Such complex dilemma, I know. But it’s exactly what I’m feeling at the moment, how do I settle in the middle between expat and immigrant? 


(Side note: my most recent picture of Shibuya, my least favorite city in Tokyo)

I was asked several times by my fellow colleagues, why do I want to return to Japan, which honestly I always dodge with the typical ”I love the food, culture, sight-seeing” etc. But of course one does NOT leave her own home country to a new continent just for sushi, does it?

So I tried to put into words what exactly is the reason, but I’m still struggling to do it. If only it was straightforward.

The other day, we held a makan-makan with a newfound friend. Honestly it was my newfound friend rather than husband’s, because I share a lot of similarities with her and messaged her first, which escalated into a lunch at my crib and her coming from 2-hour away by train just to meet us. For that, I’m really thankful.

But I’m most thankful to have found a friend in this place, because Japan can be lonely sometimes. I mean, sure, I am the happiest human being when I’m being left alone, but the things we have in common mean a lot more to me. It was our first meetup and we even went to karaoke for the first time with them, oh how things have escalated so quickly for us, even the kids to do that!

And considering it’s been hell for me to open up to a complete stranger as I didn’t have good history on opening up to a new friendship..

New resolution for 2025: make new friends!

 Happy new year 2025!

I always try to usher in the new year by making positive changes, new habits, etc. I got myself a new iPad mini, because the one I have is a 11” and too bulky for me to bring to office for notes, etc.

And when I saw a girl carrying her iPad mini in the train, lost in her reading on her iPad, I was sold - and got it!

Now, I can’t stop interacting with it. It’s like my new clone - everything I do or think, will involve having it in my hand. Of course I journal and have my planner in it. Writing in it feels so much smoother than my old 11” iPad. 

(Also, I don’t have to berebut with my kids and husband anymore, which is a hugee plus)

But the downside is, everytime I open tiktok app in the iPad mini husband would give me a side eye and ask, “so you’re just using this iPad for read and study, huh?”

Way to killjoy.

 The other day, our tenant sent us the latest photos of the house. I didn’t expect to see the photos, so I was really surprised.

What I was most surprised is, how nostalgic it felt in that moment to see the photos. He did take good care of the house, and almost everything is in tact, just like how we left it to him 2 years ago. He upgraded some furnitures, like sofa and dining table, but somehow it didn’t change anything. It still feels the same, like it is still our house.

It felt so nostalgic because I really can’t believe we used to live there until 2 years ago.

The house was where we grew up as a family. The boys were toddlers when we moved there, and I remember we had to search high and low for kindergartens because the area wasn’t fully developed yet. When it slowly developed, kindergartens started filling in the empty shoplots and shops started open, that was when Covid hit. We were left in our small bubble in lockdown, couldn’t go anywhere but the areas near our house, but somehow it felt like we had everything we needed - restaurants and shops in walking distance, and parks for the kids to let out steam. I didn’t really feel isolated because of this area we were living in, our old house. Neighbours would send some dishes during Ramadan and even when we celebrated Raya in lockdown, I didn't really feel lonely.

Now, after 2 years, we living in my favorite city feels like something that only happens in movies. But it’s my life.


Taken the day we left, 2 years ago

Looking back now, while I will never go back to that place, I feel grateful for the experiences and lessons learnt. And I hope our tenant feels at home in that house that used to be our home.


Our home now (and I'm still pinching myself for it)

We might move again after this, but I really don’t want to because where else can you find a balcony view that can top this?

 I’ve mentioned over and over how I’m going to update this space, but yet nothing happens. If this is a KPI at work I would’ve gotten fired by now..

So met some old friends last few weeks, one of those rare occasions when suddenly a friend dropped by Tokyo for a visit. God knows my social life outside my family is practically non-existent, so I always try to make time for these rare occasions, because it feels like God giving me these opportunities and say “you’re welcome!”










We had lunch at Rasa Malaysia Ginza, a Malaysian restaurant which has been the go-to place for Malaysians gatherings. I’ve never been there, but I think the char koey teow there is awesome, and you have to make a reservation because it’s always full.

Afterwards, walked along the streets of Ginza. Usually it was just me and husband and the kids strolling around Ginza so I couldn’t really take in the atmosphere cos I’d be busy running around the kids, but this time, no more baggage to lug around lol. 

Ginza on weekends is such a delight because they closed off roads where people can take a walk at the main streets. We spent time there having coffee, even had some street photographers requesting to take photos of us haha (made me think are Muslims with hijab so rare in Japan?) 

Ahhhh so happy!!! 

Can’t believe I’m at this stage of life where meetups with friends become less common that I treasure so much.

Also, special thanks to Huda for making the time to meet, finally!! <3

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