Wednesday, July 05, 2017

mommy of two

If you're wondering why there hasn't been any updates in here..

It's because I'm a mommy of two now OMG.

When there was only one child, I thought my life was super hectic already - outings are bizarre occasions which happen to be a luxury for us, our movie time was reduced to less than 10 a year because why would you bring a baby to a cinema?

Then, two kids happened..and my social life is basically zero. Blogging life too, as evident from the past month. It's been 1 month and a half since I gave birth to Rafiy, making the total of lives dependent on us now to TWO.

Let me tell you about my past 1 month and a half.



My recovery


Has been better than the first time Alhamdulillah! I think I mentioned this in previous blog post - VCO and perineal massage helped me a lot, I think. Though for other body parts, I still slather minyak panas every day to help the 'angin' go away and let me have a healthier body and even though I'm technically over pantang period already, I still pantang a few types of food - fully breastfeeding means I'd have to watch what I eat.

Or else, I'd suffer. Read next part.

Baby's recovery


If you think you're prepared for the second time after having gone the whole first time experience, YOU'RE WRONG.

For the past month, I've been under a lot of stress that I think I've developed PPD somewhat. Rafiy won't sleep at night..without crying his heart out at first, that at times when I'm comforting him I'm asking God why He tested me like this.

At times, I even wish Rafiy was a different kind of baby; a good one like his brother. There I said it.

You don't understand. Rayyan was relatively a good baby - he fell asleep at night without fussing at all and only woken up a few times for milk. Then he slept until morning and repeated the routine for every few hours, which gave me ample time to do my thing and have me-time. But Rafiy, he'd cry after feedings for God-knows-why, he'd cry while I'm desperately trying to put him to sleep at night, and even after I've successfully made him doze off in my arms, he'd cry again the moment I put him down.

Stress? That's an understatement. I'm mentally and physically exhausted.

And I realized the worst feeling as a mom is when you can't comfort your own baby when he's crying bloody murder.

So for now, the verdict is Rafiy is probably colicky or just having a hard time especially at night (what his pediatrician says), and we'd just have to endure it until this phase goes away by the time he's 3 to 4 months old. When his pediatrician told me this, I cringed - that's like more than 2 months away FML.

Rayyan as a big brother


He was always kissing my belly while I was pregnant, and I'm so glad his loving demeanor doesn't stop even after his little brother was born. He loves Rafiy so much that the first week we had Rafiy at home, he'd cry every day at his school, telling his teachers he wants his adik and Mommy at home.

-_-

He kisses Rafiy every day after returning from school, he calls Rafiy adik, he caresses Rafiy's cheek and face whenever he sees Rafiy awake, he'd be mad if people touch Rafiy's things and he'd insist on pushing the stroller when Rafiy is in it. Although we know he loves his brother, it's still difficult to manage because toddlers don't know their own strength - sometimes he'd pinch Rafiy's cheek or pat his back a little too hard, and Rafiy would cry.

Rayyan gets more sensitive than usual too - he gets upset and cries easily nowadays FML. #noonemesseswithRayyan


But above all, seeing Rafiy smiles at me for the first time was the best thing that happened to me for these past 1 month and a half.

Here's to hoping for better months ahead.

3 comments:

  1. i cringed while reading your story..because it's very similar to my experience when i had my 2nd baby..haha
    and yes, stress is really an understatement...i was worn out, and lethargic..i cried everyday..
    Until now i keep telling myself that 2 kids are enough for me..but...but...what if my daughter didn't come back for raya when she needs to follow the husband? haha..this silly things that makes me question whether i should beranak lagi or not..haha
    Oh God, please give me the courage to have more kids..
    How lar people that has 3 kids and more?...because when you have 2 kids, you take one, and your husband would handle the other one..huhuhu

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  2. my first baby macam tu, he started crying from 7pm to 12am every night and i developed PPD, thought of dropping him several times until my husband had to rushed back from terengganu (he works there, so am alone with baby). now nk plan for second one pun i hesitate, do u mind if i offer suggestion, go to any jamu shop/kedai yg jual local products tu and buy minyak telon anugerah, i found out after 4 months and when i used it on my son, it helped tremendously, also recite al fatihah, ayat kursi and 3 qul with niat to jauhkan benda2 tak elok and protect ur son from them. hope it helps.

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  3. so sad reading this :( being a mum is tough..hang in there mummy :(

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